Hang out with people who make you better, brighter, and braver.

Better.  Brighter. And Braver.

I want to start off with a very special thank you to the people in my world who truly make me better, brighter and braver.  I am forever grateful to you for your presence in my life and for the difference you make – not just in my life but also in the world!

What would our lives be like if we were surrounded by people who made us better? Who made us brighter? Who made us braver?  What could we be capable of with that kind of support and encouragement? What sort of difference could we make in our own lives and in the world with that kind of influence? And perhaps an even more important question could be, “How can I help someone else to be better, brighter and braver?” 

The past while has been a great opportunity for me to reflect.  We took some time over the past several weeks to just ‘be’. We went skate skiing, got together with friends, relaxed by the fire, watched movies and even took a few afternoon naps. With the new year well underway, I’ve been knee-deep in work, which I’m so grateful for! You know, the on-my-knees kind of grateful.

It might just be my eyes, but I think I saw the sky getting brighter and bigger as the calendar turned to March. I’m very excited about this month because I’ve allocated the month of March to writing, some creative projects and also to sharing some new virtual programs! More on these programs next week but what I really want to share is the following because it’s dawning on me, just how important it is – if you want to live a truly fulfilling life or if you’re even just looking for a bit more joy on a day-to-day basis…hang out with people who make you better, brighter and braver. And if you have moments where you make each other laugh so much that your stomach muscles hurt or someone snorts their beverage, even better!

In the past year, I decided to spend more time in my own company. To really take stock of my life – where I’ve been and where I want to grow. I let go of what didn’t serve me, from the negative self-talk in my mind to clothes that didn’t fit quite right. Although I’ve still got a lot of work to do, I began redesigning and creating a different present that I really  wanted to lean and live into.  And I intentionally gathered a few more people into my circle who truly make me better, brighter and braver and I really looked at how I could do the same for others.   Life is so very short and so fleeting.  If I knew, before now, just how fleeting and precious it really is, I’d probably have wasted a lot less time in my life. And I’d definitely have been more intentional about who I spent time with.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, allowed people to fill the doorways and windows into my world who didn’t deserve to be there, and I believed I was worth less, and sadly, at times, even worthless, because I allowed certain people to dim my light in an attempt to make themselves feel better about themselves.  Looking back, I honestly don’t know how I ended up in those certain situations, but I do know I am always responsible for everything in my life, including all of my mistakes. Rather than let it bother me, though, I’ve tried to use my mistakes – those opportunities where I silenced my own voice out of fear or insecurity – as a teacher and a learning opportunity to create a better way forward.  And what an extraordinary way forward it’s been the past couple of years and even more recently – the past couple of months. Yes – letting go is sometimes a very good thing.

Sometimes, I feel like a very slow learner. One of these things I’ve learned, better late than never,  is that I have a choice in who I let into my world. And so do you. I can say ‘no’ to what does not serve my highest good…and so can you. (Read that last part again.)

If there are things or people in your life that dim your light, or minimize your fabulousness, that’s not right.  Everything in your world should build you up, not the other way around.  I was at my breaking point 2 or 3 years ago.  It was the lowest of the lows I’d ever felt in my entire life.  In those moments of utter despair, it became blindingly clear that I had to find a way to change my life.  I had to find a way to create boundaries and remove everyone and everything from my life that wasn’t serving my higher good and God’s greater good.  Once I finally found that inner conviction and voice, everything changed.

Everything changed. Yes, everything can change…but we’ve got to find that sliver of strength within us to grab hold of and let it lead the way. We’ve got to find a way to surround ourselves with the right people, and also take some sort of action, however small, towards putting the right things into our own mind, body and life, as well, – in whatever way possible. I am reminded of these life-lessons in the present moment and it’s so very important to listen to our inner voice, to set boundaries and to let go of anything that isn’t there for your higher good.

Who do you know that make you better, brighter or braver?  Personally or professionally? Think about the goals or new year’s resolutions you made a few months ago as you rang in the new year.  How are you doing?  Is there someone that could help you shine brighter – in your personal life or career? Could you call them, send them a text or invite them for a walk and talk? Perhaps it’s an old friend or someone in your community that you hold in high regard.  Perhaps it’s a colleague or maybe someone who could help your business prosper.  Call them.

Remember, life is short and fleeting and there’s no better time than right now to do and be all that you can! In my own life and business, in the past 6 months, I’ve reached out to a few different mentors to help me be better, brighter and braver.  I am so unbelievably grateful for the difference they’ve made in my life and the profound impact they’ve had on how I feel, on a day-to-day basis, along with the increased level of focus, clarity and excitement I’m experiencing as a result.

Is there someone who could help you be better, brighter or braver? The world needs you – and all that you are and could become…so maybe pick up the phone and call the person, mentor or friend you’re thinking of as you read this.

Also, who do you know that you could help make better, brighter or braver?  Is there someone that you have a gut-feeling about that might welcome a little of your influence, expertise or friendship? Give them a call. Reach out. You just might change someone’s life – including your own.

If I can serve you in any way, to make your light brighter or help you reach your potential, please give me a ring.  And if you might be looking for an opportunity to be surrounded by some amazing women who make me better, brighter and braver, please consider joining our next DIVA Retreat.  It’s March 8th – Friday night – from 6-9pm.

Please join us for a night of laughter, dancing, vision-board making and collaboration! Come alone or invite a friend! There will be dancing, laughter, swag bags (worth over $100) and prizes! Please get in touch for questions or to register. Please share to any girl friends who may also be interested. Thank you!  Find out more here: Diva Retreat Vision Board Making Evening March 8th, 2022 

Crystal Flaman is an international keynote speaker and social entrepreneur, inspiring you to discover your dreams and the difference you can create in the world. Anything is possible. Everything is possible. Believe in your dreams. Do what you love and be fearlessly you. 

If you would like to learn more information about this topic or to have Crystal share this message with your team, in person or on a virtual platform, please contact Crystal.  Thank you.  crystal@inspiringsuccess.ca  phone: 250-215-2903 (cell) or 778-477-0100 (on the rotary dial land-line)









Rave Reviews

“All I can say is WOW! Crystal Flaman you were on fire at the recent Vernon Women in Business Leadership Conference. Your ability to tie the conference theme into your inspirational messaging. You had the entire room captivated with the interactive activities you brought to help solidify your messages. As the MC, it is my job to mind the room and the time slot. Your expert storytelling had us all captivated from beginning to end. Thank you! I would highly recommend you for any event where the group is looking to elevate their team and individual performances.”
Faith Wood, Inspiring Minds Consulting Ltd, Owner
“Crystal was invited to kick-off and set the tone for our Professional Development conference. She delivered an interesting and engaging presentation, and inspired us through her passion and leadership, focusing on creating significance in our successes. Feedback after the session was incredibly positive, appreciating the relevance to both work and home life. Crystal even left us with parting gifts – a crystal prism and rings with encouraging words on them…and I still have them hanging at my desk as a reminder of what she taught us.  I would highly recommend Crystal to speak at your next engagement if you’re looking for a moving, honest and successful woman to ignite passion and inspiration for your team.”
Caren Leinwant, Green Shield Canada, Individual Business Services Manager
“I have known and worked with Crystal for the past 20 years.  She is an amazing person!  Crystal is a great speaker – engaging, humourous, and has the ability to appeal to many different audiences – young and old.   She is always prepared and willing to be flexible depending on the needs of her clients.  She has worked with many start up businesses over the years to provide information and guidance.   I would not hesitate to hire or refer Crystal for any speaking, mentoring or coaching opportunities for businesses in my community.  I know you won’t be disappointed.”
Wendy McCulloch, Community Futures Boundary, General Manager
“Crystal is creative, innovative, passionate, and inspirational. She planned special, memorable, and meaningful activities for our students that helped them to recognize their talents, boost their self-esteem, and prepare them for their transition to middle school. Both staff and students were so impressed by Crystal. The students were excited about the gifts they received and these special tokens will forever remind them of the lessons learned during their time with Crystal.  It truly was an honour to work with Crystal and experience all that she has to teach and offer. Our students are better, more confident people because of the time spent with Crystal.”
Mrs Lara Davies, Teacher, North Glenmore Elementary School
“Her physical and mental strength is only matched by the kindness of her heart. Crystal Flaman is a talented entrepreneur and athlete who has combined her passion for humanity with sport. Every opportunity is used to promote the well-being of her fellow man whether it be at home or abroad. A gifted speaker who can inspire you to tears, or better yet action, uses her magnetic energy to promote positive change. Crystal is hard working, committed and her tenacity is evident in many of her successful projects. Working with Crystal will be one of the best decisions you have ever made. “
Laura Thurnheer, Associate Dean, Okanagan College
“The Diva retreat was the most amazing week of my year. I am new to yoga, so was worried I wouldn’t be able to keep up but Amelie was an amazing instructor and paced the class to include all abilities. It was a beautiful way to start the day! Crystal guided the workshops in her bright and positive way. Each day we meet for a workshop in a safe and supportive environment, with great materials to take away. She created a warm and welcoming place to talk and share experiences. The group of ladies – new to me – became friends I am still in contact with.  We each were able to laugh, share and feel validated.

The location was gorgeous and we had ample free time to explore the village, head to the beach or hang out at the resort. I loved the balance of yoga, workshops and free time.

I would highly recommend the retreat to give yourself time to pause, reflect and refocus.”
Dianne Bondaroff, DIVA Retreat 2018 participant, Artist, Entrepreneur, Change Maker
“I have known Crystal for over 15 years as a colleague and good friend. She is a key component of the instruction team for the Leisure Development Course, a unique three-year professional development program for parks, recreation and community development personnel. Crystal’s presentations are always inspirational, sensitive, insightful and tailored to the needs of the respective students. She is one of the most passionate and enthusiastic individuals I have had the pleasure of working with and would not hesitate in recommending Crystal for whatever endeavor she wishes to undertake.”
Chris Nelson, Coordinator, Leisure Development Course
“I am not sure how to compact my gratitude for what DIVA Retreats really has done for me. My first DIVA Retreat was in 2014. I was seeking exactly what it stands for: Discover my Inner Voice and Adventure through body,  mind, and spirit. I was so blessed to have spent the week with such amazing women and it was the start of a great personal journey since then. My second experience in 2018 was equally amazing and an opportunity to hold the space for someone else’s transformation experience.  At the same time, in the end I was newly inspired again!  I wanted to give back and, instead, got so much more in return. I recommend this retreat for anyone. You are safe and instantly welcomed if you come alone or bring your BFF's. I loved it all! Yoga, laughing, learning, hiking, biking, creating, trying healthy foods, humanitarian contribution.... and most of all making connections with amazing women from all over Canada.  I don’t think there is another retreat like this anywhere that is this affordable.
Louise Sarauer, Administrative Professional, Saskatoon, SK
“I have known Crystal for over 10 years and in that time I have had the pleasure of being a participant in her workshops and presentations as well as being a fellow presenter. Her unwavering enthusiasm for her topics and her sincere, heartfelt messages for her participants, makes her presentations exciting and meaningful to her audiences. She uses her own life challenges and successes as the back-drop for her messages allowing her to use humour to engage and connect with those in the room. Often using a variety of props and techniques, participants are continuously engaged in her presentations. As a result, Crystal is an effective speaker, focused on sharing her passion and beliefs to motivate participants to take action in their own lives, towards their goals and aspirations.”
Deb Comfort, Facilities Supervisor, Dept. of Recreation, Parks and Culture, Red Deer, AB

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