Make The Leap

Have you ever been stuck, immobilized or paralyzed with fear? Have you ever found yourself unable to move in one direction or another or to make the leap towards a goal, dream or direction you would like to go?

The word ‘leap’ came into my life recently, both literally and figuratively. A friend gave me a beautiful little plant with the word “leap” engraved on a stone tucked into the top of the clear glass vase.  She made this herself, intentionally choosing everything about it – including the stone with the word “leap” on it. So thoughtful. So appreciated. So timely.

It got me thinking about my own life – and where I have (and haven’t) made the leap.

Making the leap is about jumping across and into something new and leap is defined as the following;

I remember a time when making the leap was a visceral experience in my own life. I’ve often thought of this moment when nudging myself towards making the leap in different situations.

More than twenty years ago, a bunch of friends were out at a local cliff-jumping spot along the lake and everyone was taking turns jumping from the cliffs, leaping into the water from an elevation that was far too high for my comfort level.  I watched as each friend boldly ran off the edge of the cliff, leaping into the air, grabbing hold of nothing and everything all at the same time.  Nothing– because there was literally nothing to grab a hold of, except air.  Everything– because in the experience of leaping, I saw my friends grasping and taking hold of courage, bravery, and immense possibility.

I was mesmerized.

And paralyzed in fear.

As I stood watching my friends, after they jumped, they would climb back up to the top off the cliff, dripping wet and filled with excitement. And then they would leap off the edge again, with even more bravery, courage and possibility than before! I remained planted firmly with my feet on the ground.  Not budging an inch.

Until I felt something stir inside me.  It was a tiny ounce of bravery hoping for a chance to show itself.  I remained frozen – as we so often do in life when new opportunities present themselves to us.  I was still overwhelmed with fear – but not paralyzed any longer.  It wasn’t peer pressure that caused the stir – it was a desire to grow, to grab hold of possibility and potential and all that could be…if only I was able to move beyond my fear.

How often do we hide behind our fear?  I know I hide there a lot.  I have hidden behind my own fears on and off, for my whole life.  The fear of not being good enough.  The fear of not giving or doing my best. The fear of actually giving my best – because if I give my best, (you know…the all-in 100% kind of effort) and fail, what would that mean? And then there’s the fear that I’m not smart enough or worthy enough or deserving enough. The fear that others will judge me or not like me or that I won’t be accepted.  Not to mention the fear of embarrassment, shame, self-doubt and countless other ways I’ve held myself back from leaping into my life.

Yes, I’ve had my share of fears and they have held me back in immeasurable ways.  They have also protected me and guided me and taught me a great deal about myself, life and everything in between.  I don’t think fear is bad – it just is.  And I’m learning that there’s a time to listen and honour my fears and there’s also a time to make the leap.

That day, on the cliff, I picked up a little rock and was going to throw it over the edge and count how many seconds it would take to hit the water.  This, I thought, would illustrate when I should start to hold my breath before I hit the water and offer a little assurance that it wasn’t really that far down.

But something happened in that moment and as I grasped that little rock and flung it over the edge. I didn’t let go. With that tiny rock in hand, I made the leap. I found myself leaping into the air, arms outstretched, heart wide open, with that little rock still clenched in my palm.

As I hit the water and came up for air, filled with exhilaration and possibility, the little rock remained in the palm of my hand. I kept it for years, tucked in the top drawer of my office desk, as a reminder of all that is waiting on the other side of fear.

Possibility. Opportunity.  Everything.

For the remainder of the afternoon, I joined my friends, clambering up the path to the top off the cliff several times, to make the leap over the edge and into my life. It was a day of leaping, celebrating, of overcoming fears and of grabbing hold of dreams. Big dreams. Awesome dreams. Worthy dreams. And so much more.

This memory reminds me of the importance of making the leap, even when we feel frozen or paralyzed in fear. There is an ounce (well, actually much more, but let’s start with just an ounce because it’s more than enough) of bravery that is within each of us, just waiting for an opportunity to show itself.

It’s time. It’s your time. As we move into a new season, make the leap towards what would fulfil you, enrich your life and bring more joy to your every day. And if we’re unable to make the actual leap today, let’s make a leap of faith together. A leap of belief. Because when faith or belief are present, anything is possible and the possibilities are endless.

Crystal Flaman is an international keynote speaker and social entrepreneur, inspiring you to discover your dreams and the difference you can create in the world. Anything is possible. Everything is possible. Believe in your dreams. Do what you love and be fearlessly you


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“All I can say is WOW! Crystal Flaman you were on fire at the recent Vernon Women in Business Leadership Conference. Your ability to tie the conference theme into your inspirational messaging. You had the entire room captivated with the interactive activities you brought to help solidify your messages. As the MC, it is my job to mind the room and the time slot. Your expert storytelling had us all captivated from beginning to end. Thank you! I would highly recommend you for any event where the group is looking to elevate their team and individual performances.”
Faith Wood, Inspiring Minds Consulting Ltd, Owner
“Crystal was invited to kick-off and set the tone for our Professional Development conference. She delivered an interesting and engaging presentation, and inspired us through her passion and leadership, focusing on creating significance in our successes. Feedback after the session was incredibly positive, appreciating the relevance to both work and home life. Crystal even left us with parting gifts – a crystal prism and rings with encouraging words on them…and I still have them hanging at my desk as a reminder of what she taught us.  I would highly recommend Crystal to speak at your next engagement if you’re looking for a moving, honest and successful woman to ignite passion and inspiration for your team.”
Caren Leinwant, Green Shield Canada, Individual Business Services Manager
“I have known and worked with Crystal for the past 20 years.  She is an amazing person!  Crystal is a great speaker – engaging, humourous, and has the ability to appeal to many different audiences – young and old.   She is always prepared and willing to be flexible depending on the needs of her clients.  She has worked with many start up businesses over the years to provide information and guidance.   I would not hesitate to hire or refer Crystal for any speaking, mentoring or coaching opportunities for businesses in my community.  I know you won’t be disappointed.”
Wendy McCulloch, Community Futures Boundary, General Manager
“Crystal is creative, innovative, passionate, and inspirational. She planned special, memorable, and meaningful activities for our students that helped them to recognize their talents, boost their self-esteem, and prepare them for their transition to middle school. Both staff and students were so impressed by Crystal. The students were excited about the gifts they received and these special tokens will forever remind them of the lessons learned during their time with Crystal.  It truly was an honour to work with Crystal and experience all that she has to teach and offer. Our students are better, more confident people because of the time spent with Crystal.”
Mrs Lara Davies, Teacher, North Glenmore Elementary School
“Her physical and mental strength is only matched by the kindness of her heart. Crystal Flaman is a talented entrepreneur and athlete who has combined her passion for humanity with sport. Every opportunity is used to promote the well-being of her fellow man whether it be at home or abroad. A gifted speaker who can inspire you to tears, or better yet action, uses her magnetic energy to promote positive change. Crystal is hard working, committed and her tenacity is evident in many of her successful projects. Working with Crystal will be one of the best decisions you have ever made. “
Laura Thurnheer, Associate Dean, Okanagan College
“The Diva retreat was the most amazing week of my year. I am new to yoga, so was worried I wouldn’t be able to keep up but Amelie was an amazing instructor and paced the class to include all abilities. It was a beautiful way to start the day! Crystal guided the workshops in her bright and positive way. Each day we meet for a workshop in a safe and supportive environment, with great materials to take away. She created a warm and welcoming place to talk and share experiences. The group of ladies – new to me – became friends I am still in contact with.  We each were able to laugh, share and feel validated.

The location was gorgeous and we had ample free time to explore the village, head to the beach or hang out at the resort. I loved the balance of yoga, workshops and free time.

I would highly recommend the retreat to give yourself time to pause, reflect and refocus.”
Dianne Bondaroff, DIVA Retreat 2018 participant, Artist, Entrepreneur, Change Maker
“I have known Crystal for over 15 years as a colleague and good friend. She is a key component of the instruction team for the Leisure Development Course, a unique three-year professional development program for parks, recreation and community development personnel. Crystal’s presentations are always inspirational, sensitive, insightful and tailored to the needs of the respective students. She is one of the most passionate and enthusiastic individuals I have had the pleasure of working with and would not hesitate in recommending Crystal for whatever endeavor she wishes to undertake.”
Chris Nelson, Coordinator, Leisure Development Course
“I am not sure how to compact my gratitude for what DIVA Retreats really has done for me. My first DIVA Retreat was in 2014. I was seeking exactly what it stands for: Discover my Inner Voice and Adventure through body,  mind, and spirit. I was so blessed to have spent the week with such amazing women and it was the start of a great personal journey since then. My second experience in 2018 was equally amazing and an opportunity to hold the space for someone else’s transformation experience.  At the same time, in the end I was newly inspired again!  I wanted to give back and, instead, got so much more in return. I recommend this retreat for anyone. You are safe and instantly welcomed if you come alone or bring your BFF's. I loved it all! Yoga, laughing, learning, hiking, biking, creating, trying healthy foods, humanitarian contribution.... and most of all making connections with amazing women from all over Canada.  I don’t think there is another retreat like this anywhere that is this affordable.
Louise Sarauer, Administrative Professional, Saskatoon, SK
“I have known Crystal for over 10 years and in that time I have had the pleasure of being a participant in her workshops and presentations as well as being a fellow presenter. Her unwavering enthusiasm for her topics and her sincere, heartfelt messages for her participants, makes her presentations exciting and meaningful to her audiences. She uses her own life challenges and successes as the back-drop for her messages allowing her to use humour to engage and connect with those in the room. Often using a variety of props and techniques, participants are continuously engaged in her presentations. As a result, Crystal is an effective speaker, focused on sharing her passion and beliefs to motivate participants to take action in their own lives, towards their goals and aspirations.”
Deb Comfort, Facilities Supervisor, Dept. of Recreation, Parks and Culture, Red Deer, AB

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